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Friend problem

edited August 2008 in BoyzRoom
Say your best friend is a female and you have known her for close to 10 years..

She started dating and all of sudden, she no longer has time for you.. everytime u asked her out to catch a movie or just to chill.. she would flatly refused the offer.. at some point, she said that if she has free time, she would give it to her bf as her top priority...

The long chat on the phone you used to do with her everynight no longer exist.. it's like you are no longer a part of her life anymore..

BUT, everytime she is going thru problems with her bf, she would run to you and cry.. she would expect u to be at her disposal at this period of time...But after things are back to normal, she would ignore and abandon you again...

So my question is: what would you do? would you stay friend with her? or accept the fact that the friendship is over.. and if she calls you when she is having problems with her bf, are u still gonna do your study as the best friend??

Thanks for the help :)
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  • Some people say that "a friend in need is a friend indeed". In your case, it's kinda obvious that she's no longer a 'friend' for you, but still ... you can be a real friend to her. It's your choice ... whether to keep her as your friend or kick her away instead. Be wise. :wink:
  • Hummm..
    Km dah prnh ungkapin mslh itu ke tmen km lom?
    KLo org lg di mabuk cinta ya kadang spt itu..
    Dunia serasa milik berdua..
    Tp klo lg berantem, br d sadar klo di dunia ini msh ada org laen.. :lol:

    Coba km bicarain dulu ama dy..
    10 thn itu bkn wkt yg singkat lho..

    Spt kata dosen ny Naka, yg paLing penting adalah KOMUNIKASI 8)
  • Ada baiknya masalah seperti ini perlu kamu bicarakan langsung dengan teman cewe kamu, biar dia tahu bagaimana rasanya menjadi seperti dirimu...
    Kasih tahu saja rasa kesalmu bila dia bersikap seperti itu....Tidak enak kan kalo dijadikan "tong sampah" mulu mending kalau u dijadiin "celengan" :lol: :lol:
  • biteme wrote:
    would you stay friend with her?

    my two cents .... tough luck .... heheheheheh
  • I know my answer is harsh,but I'll say
    I don't care about the situation,She Has Her Own Life
    Friendship is Choice
    You can come
    And You can go
    No String Attached 8)
  • Ada baiknya masalah seperti ini perlu kamu bicarakan langsung dengan teman cewe kamu, biar dia tahu bagaimana rasanya menjadi seperti dirimu...
    Kasih tahu saja rasa kesalmu bila dia bersikap seperti itu....Tidak enak kan kalo dijadikan "tong sampah" mulu mending kalau u dijadiin "celengan" :lol: :lol:

    I tried.. but she got all defensive and accused me for not understanding her...
  • Van_Riza wrote:
    I know my answer is harsh,but I'll say
    I don't care about the situation,She Has Her Own Life
    Friendship is Choice
    You can come
    And You can go
    No String Attached 8)

    No no.. i get ur point..
    and I have accepted the fact that our friendship will never be the same once she's attached..
    But the thing is...why come crying to me when things get rough with the bf?
    I went for a short road trip the other other.. called her to inform her and all she said was "ok, bye" and hang up... and when i came back, she left 15 messages crying and wailing...
  • biteme wrote:
    Van_Riza wrote:
    I know my answer is harsh,but I'll say
    I don't care about the situation,She Has Her Own Life
    Friendship is Choice
    You can come
    And You can go
    No String Attached 8)

    No no.. i get ur point..
    and I have accepted the fact that our friendship will never be the same once she's attached..
    But the thing is...why come crying to me when things get rough with the bf?
    I went for a short road trip the other other.. called her to inform her and all she said was "ok, bye" and hang up... and when i came back, she left 15 messages crying and wailing...

    People has rights to express their feelings
    and we have rights to respond their feelings or not
    If You Think You Can,Do it
    If You Think You can't,Don't
    She is unstable at this time,but She'll learn
    that's life,everything has it's own time :)
  • Van_Riza wrote:
    biteme wrote:
    Van_Riza wrote:
    I know my answer is harsh,but I'll say
    I don't care about the situation,She Has Her Own Life
    Friendship is Choice
    You can come
    And You can go
    No String Attached 8)

    No no.. i get ur point..
    and I have accepted the fact that our friendship will never be the same once she's attached..
    But the thing is...why come crying to me when things get rough with the bf?
    I went for a short road trip the other other.. called her to inform her and all she said was "ok, bye" and hang up... and when i came back, she left 15 messages crying and wailing...

    People has rights to express their feelings
    and we have rights to respond their feelings or not
    If You Think You Can,Do it
    If You Think You can't,Don't
    She is unstable at this time,but She'll learn
    that's life,everything has it's own time :)

    Yeah i guess you are right..
    I am just not sure what to do..
    Would it make me an ass if i ignore her when she needs me?
    But she did ignore me when i need her.. guess this is the chance to be the bigger person..
  • biteme wrote:
    Van_Riza wrote:
    biteme wrote:
    Van_Riza wrote:
    I know my answer is harsh,but I'll say
    I don't care about the situation,She Has Her Own Life
    Friendship is Choice
    You can come
    And You can go
    No String Attached 8)

    No no.. i get ur point..
    and I have accepted the fact that our friendship will never be the same once she's attached..
    But the thing is...why come crying to me when things get rough with the bf?
    I went for a short road trip the other other.. called her to inform her and all she said was "ok, bye" and hang up... and when i came back, she left 15 messages crying and wailing...

    People has rights to express their feelings
    and we have rights to respond their feelings or not
    If You Think You Can,Do it
    If You Think You can't,Don't
    She is unstable at this time,but She'll learn
    that's life,everything has it's own time :)

    Yeah i guess you are right..
    I am just not sure what to do..
    Would it make me an ass if i ignore her when she needs me?
    But she did ignore me when i need her.. guess this is the chance to be the bigger person..

    kalau kamu masih anggap kalian masih bisa bersahabat, terima dan dengarkan .... jangan tolak dia dengan perkataan "kamu menjijikkan, aku sudah tak mau tau urusanmu lagi" saat dia jatuh, terjerumus bahkan salah arah dalam membuat pilihan.

    Disitulah sebenarnya dirimu diuji, layakah kamu sebagai seseorang yang disebut sahabat
  • Kadang, yang namanya sahabat gak mesti selalu bertemu setiap saat. Tapi masing-masing tau bahwa mereka bisa saling mengandalkan saat dilanda masalah.

    Lagipula, kalian kan sudah sama2 dewasa, kegiatannya pun sudah banyak yang berbeda. Lain halnya kalau kalian masih anak-anak, yang ke mana-mana selalu berduyun-duyun bareng-bareng.

    Sekadar usul...
  • Dia ngga bisa jadi sahabat kamu. Tapi kamu tetep bisa jadi sahabat dia. Itu yang dinilai Tuhan
  • Even guy (male friend) can do similar thing as what your female friend did. I was shocked to what he did.
  • Even guy (male friend) can do similar thing as what your female friend did. I was shocked to what he did.

    So what did u do?
  • biteme wrote:
    Even guy (male friend) can do similar thing as what your female friend did. I was shocked to what he did.

    So what did u do?

    he asked you for a 3sum session? *wink*
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